In the Dream House

A Memoir

electronic resource, 247 pages

English language

Published 2019 by Graywolf Press.

ISBN:
978-1-64445-003-1
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OCLC Number:
1126569223

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4 stars (3 reviews)

In the Dream House is Carmen Maria Machado’s engrossing and wildly innovative account of a relationship gone bad, and a bold dissection of the mechanisms and cultural representations of psychological abuse. Tracing the full arc of a harrowing relationship with a charismatic but volatile woman, Machado struggles to make sense of how what happened to her shaped the person she was becoming.

And it’s that struggle that gives the book its original structure: each chapter is driven by its own narrative trope—the haunted house, erotica, the bildungsroman—through which Machado holds the events up to the light and examines them from different angles. She looks back at her religious adolescence, unpacks the stereotype of lesbian relationships as safe and utopian, and widens the view with essayistic explorations of the history and reality of abuse in queer relationships.

Machado’s dire narrative is leavened with her characteristic wit, playfulness, and openness to inquiry. …

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A memoir of queer abuse

4 stars

The story of an abusive relationship between women, interspersed with reflections and literary discussions about queerness and abuse. Machado's central preoccupation concerns the importance of documenting her story - given the erasing of queer people's lives in literature, and the general denial of victims' experience of abuse. Some of them were very clever, but I was most fascinated by the more narrative parts, as I think she has a knack to sketch out her ex's character, so elusive and yet so convincing. At times she sounded very sick, as in, mentally unstable, to the point that I questioned to what extent she can be held responsible for her actions - perhaps a question the author herself had to grapple with, and concluded, hell yes, to a great extent because the alternative is to blame the victim.

Every chapter is narrated in a different literary genre, or perhaps a different space, …

Reflective, Illuminating

5 stars

I connected with the literary styling of this memoir and it had a deep resonance with my experiences. I find indirect prose does a much more effective job at communicating the things in life that can’t be communicated. There’s plenty of directness too, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg on the horizon. The real damage is beneath the surface; invisible, suffocating.

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Subjects

  • Lesbians, biography
  • Psychological abuse